is Dick Ketler.
I'm Sheila's husband and
the newest member of Fay's family.
like to thank all of you for attending this
to help us celebrate our Mother's life
and honor the memory
of Fay Hennigar. The
family has asked that I speak for them
to share with you a few special memories of
Mom's final years.
Mom had always been
the greatest teacher, motivator, and
inspiration for her children . . . but never
more so than in the
past six years during
and after the massive, multiple heart
surgeries that only four people in the world
before her had
ever survived. Throughout this
time of her greatest challenges,
stood taller. She endured extensive pain, months
rehabilitation, and endless hours of
medical examinations and
tests . . .and in
the process gave her children the greatest
opportunity of their adult lives. They spent
the long grueling
hours of Mom's surgeries
and months of recuperation together
clock, comforting each other, learning about
themselves, and sharing memories long
importantly, they were able to
experience clearly the wisdom
of the lessons
their Mother instilled in them by her example
throughout her life.
She also gave her
grandchildren the opportunity for six more
years to grow up in her presence during the
period of their lives, so that
they, too, could receive the gift
of her love
and the character-defining imprint of her core
values . Humility, strength, selflessness, joy
of life, and
compassion. Mom's surgeries did
not define her life; rather,
her character. She showed us that no matter
what life throws your way, you can always
prevail with hard
work, perseverance, love,
the support of family and friends,
dose of wit and humor, and a good "to
I'd also like to add my own
reflections on Fay. As a newcomer
the family, I'm at liberty to express some
children may be reluctant to
share. I met Fay a little over a year
my first visit to Northwood to meet my soon-to-be
Under circumstances that could have
been extremely awkward and
accepted me without hesitation as part of her
and was thrilled in the love Sheila and
I had found. One of my
greatest blessings will
always be that I had the opportunity to
every day with Fay during a month-long visit at
this past summer, during which time I
grew to love and know
During that visit, Mom
confided in me, privately, that she was
relieved because finally she had reached the point
in her life
where she could stop worrying . . .
because she knew her children
all were happy,
had loving spouses, and successfully were raising
fine families of their own. Obviously, she
would have wanted to be
with us for years to
come, but essentially what she said to me was
that, when the time came to go, she was
content. As most of you
know, Fay was very
private person, so I was particularly struck
by her openness. In so doing, however, she
provided me a real
insight into her
Fay was not a person of great
worldly achievements or
experiences. She was a
humble woman who asked for little and gave
everything she had to ensure the happiness and
welfare of her family
and friends. That was
her overriding mission in life, and her greatest
joy. Her contributions to the betterment of
our world are the
members of her family
sitting here today. Virtually single-handedly
and through difficult times, she raised and
nurtured five children
to become productive,
caring and successful adults who embody her
admirable spirit, values, and strength of
character. These virtues they
have passed to
their children, all of whom are bright, talented
personable young men and women who, in
turn, will make great
contributions to their
families, communities, and society.
the legacy of Fay Hennigar. Her imprint will live
spread for generations to
And so, at this time of great loss
and facing their most difficult
Fay's family thanks you for joining with them to
Mom's life, perpetuate her enduring
love, and rejoice in the
achieved all in life she set out to accomplish and
can rest at peace.
God bless you,
Following Poem was written by
Mom, Grandma, and
Unconditional love, right to the
Heart so big, it literally gave,
strong, sweet and brave.
kids, you put us first,
Even when you felt your
Unselfish and loving was your gift,
caring ear when we needed a lift.
beat the odds, made medical history,
admiration for you is no mystery.
person for a purple heart,
God made you special
from the start.
Twenty-five years to
Winnebago you'd heed,
Determined to give us
whatever we need.
Time with your grandchildren
was one of
Your greatest joys,
special to you ~~3 girls and 10 boys.
couldn't have asked for a better Mom,
hearts are breaking now that your gone.
made you an angel, in this we trust,
from above and take care of us.
Joy Comes in the Morning
I'm missing you much more
My dearest friend; my sweet
You meant the whole world to me,
who knew you would agree.
No one was like "my
You were a loyal friend right
from the start
You offered your hand, and
captured my heart.
The laughter, the tears, the
love we shared.
Remains here with me, I know
how you cared.
What matters now
than ever before is the
love that she
Ever gentle and
she tried so hard to find
for she truly cared.
you could confide,
And her arms opened
To give comfort or a
shoulder to cry
She laughed with such zeal,
her humor was real.
Yes, she was a
you could rely on.
called her home,
and in taking her, stole
whole portion of my life~
I must try to move
Though my spirit weeps through
lonely nights; I still comprehend.
in the Morning;"
And with that 'GREAT
With Jesus ~~~ A Heavenly
Fay and I can walk
She meant so much to
She was my friend,
And I will miss her
February16, 2006 ©
"I May Never Pass This Way
Sequenced By Bob
Used With His Permission
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